A useful description—not a diagnosis
Why difficulties may appear after a positive start
“The September dip” is an informal phrase, not a medical or educational diagnosis. The first weeks of term can be carried by novelty, structure and new-term energy. As work, social demands and tiredness build, difficulties that were less visible may begin to show.
A change does not automatically mean poor behaviour or one particular condition. It is a reason to pause, notice the pattern and find out what may be making school harder.
Three useful things to do today
- Describe one change you have noticed without judgement.
- Ask what has felt hardest, then give your child time to answer.
- Agree one small action for tomorrow—not a solution to everything.
Step 1
Notice changes and patterns
Look at what is different from your child’s usual behaviour and when it happens. Possible signs include:
Step 2
Begin without pushing
Choose a time when neither of you is rushed or already upset. Begin with what you have noticed, rather than telling your child what they must be feeling.
“I’ve noticed things have seemed harder recently. What has felt most difficult—and what would make tomorrow a little easier?”
Questions that may help
- When does school feel hardest?
- Is it the work, people, place or something else?
- When does it feel slightly easier?
- Who at school feels safe to approach?
Try to avoid
- asking many questions at once
- jumping straight to punishment
- calling them lazy or dramatic
- promising to keep a safety concern secret
Step 3
Make the next step small and clear
Working with school
Share facts and agree who will help
Tell school what has changed, when it began, what your child says and anything that has helped. Ask what staff have noticed and who can provide a predictable check-in.
A simple first plan could include
This may involve the form tutor, pastoral team, head of year, attendance lead or SENCO. Ask how your child’s views will be included.
When more help is needed
Take continuing or worsening difficulties seriously
Speak to school and consider contacting your GP if worry, physical symptoms or changes in behaviour are persistent, worsening or affecting attendance, sleep, eating, friendships or everyday life.
If you are worried about self-harm, suicidal thoughts, abuse or immediate safety, use the urgent support information rather than waiting for a routine review.
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Reviewed 20 September 2026. This page provides general guidance and does not replace advice from a healthcare professional, school or emergency service. NHS routes shown are for England.